A difficult fact of life for many people is the failure of others to recognize their true worth/value. It's usually based on arrogance, cultural differences, prejudices, psyche issues, or ignorance. Potentially, you will be underestimated, devalued, and underrated by various individuals who you encounter. Sadly, some of those people might be family members or so-called friends (frenemies). They do not have a clue on the depth of who you are nor the journey you are traveling. They are incapable or refuse to acknowledge the extent of your character, intelligence, capabilities, etc. The response to such treatment is questioning oneself and doubting one's own capabilities. Do not allow this type of treatment to hinder you. In contrast, use it as a platform to launch you like a space rocket!!!
Scenario 1: Parents who openly favor one child over the other. In the process, they are uplifting one and stifling the gifts and talents of the other...tragedy. The child who is less favored will be thrust in a low vibration place of self-doubt and low self-esteem. It is a place that is hard to escape due to our strong desire for the love and admiration of our parents. Great value is placed on parental approval. Observing that approval only directed towards one or more siblings can mark a person for life. Please realize your parents are only human which means they are naturally flawed. They make mistakes and do things they should not do as any other human being.
Some parents are mentally damaged due to the way they were treated during their formative years. The wise saying that "damaged people damage people" is real. For instance, someone who was berated by their parents for being obese grows up and has 2 children; One struggles with obesity like themselves and the other is notably smaller-sized. The parent proceeds to favor the smaller-sized child. Why? Because they hate themselves secondary to the mental damage they incurred. Unfortunately, they pass this crippling energy onto the offspring that has the same trait they were taught to despise. The parent is communicating that one's worth is dictated by one's body size which is far from the truth. Ultimately, the self-esteem and self-love of the obese child plummets as an ugly cycle is created.
Take note, we do not come from our parents. We come through our parents. See the difference? We come from the Creator and are manifestations of that that divine consciousness. If this has happened to you, I am praying for your healing and recovery. I am praying that your mind and spirit be renewed to where you recognize your true value and fulfill your divine purpose. God loves you more than you will ever know.
If you are a parent guilty of inflicting this kind of pain, you have created some horrible karma for yourself. First of all, acknowledge what you have done. Take accountability for your actions. Step out your comfort zone and look that demon right in the face. It may not be easy and it won't feel good, but do it! So many bad situations go unresolved simply because people refuse to accept accountability for their actions. Acknowledge the role you played in creating the problem. If your heart is sincere, you will experience a great amount of guilt over your behavior. At that point, forgive yourself. You are not excusing or dismissing what you did only releasing the guilt. Recognize that each child is unique with different strengths and their own special gifts. Allow them to shine in their own way without comparisons or degradation. If your children are now adults and the damage is already done, then apologize. Yes, go to that child that you mistreated and apologize and ask for their forgiveness. Allow the person that you hurt see you express genuine remorse. One of the main aspects that makes it difficult to forgive is the perpetrator not showing any remorse. Even if they reject your apology, you have done the right thing. At the same time, you have lifted the frequency of your karma which is a very good thing. Remember, we reap the seeds that we sow.
Scenario 2: Managers/supervisors and coworkers holding you back. They refuse to let you shine or give you credit for your accomplishments. They overlook your strengths and spotlight your weaknesses. Whenever your name is in their mouths it will usually be over something negative. You could do 1 negative thing and 50 positive things and they lament on and on about the 1 negative thing, even if it was a minor offense! Getting a promotion in that environment is darn near impossible. You could raise the dead, walk on water and then turn it into wine right in front of them and they will act totally unimpressed! This behavior is not limited to the work setting, but could happen at the church, school, in sport teams, or any group where advancement and recognition is the norm. There are several reasons why people around you may act this way. One reason is personal bias or prejudice coming from one of the "isms." If that is the case, that is their karma , not yours. You should never allow other people's issues to alter your perspectives. Another reason is they do see your worth, but are intimidated by it and view your power as a threat. Are you familiar with the Biblical story of Joseph who became a king over his jealous brothers who left him for dead? They do not want you to outshine them not realizing there is a place for everyone to shine. There are trillions of stars twinkling in the cosmos and they all have a place. Additional legitimate causes for people not to recognize how fantastic you are include brain damage that can result from extensive substance abuse and trauma, organic brain disorders, such as Dementia, cognitive or developmental delay, and psychiatric illnesses characterized by altered brain chemistry. That population simply don't have the capacity to notice or care about who you are and what you have to offer. Whatever brain power they have is needed to address their own plight.
The solution to this dilemma is to keep on shining even if no one sees or acts as if they can see your light. Keep performing at your maximum capability and displaying your gifts. In that manner, your vibrations will remain high, therefore, your environment will restructure itself accordingly. I'm talking energy manifesting reality...The specific person or people who are holding you back could be removed from your environment. I have witnessed various situations where the forces of nature created circumstances that plucked rotten apples right out the basket. On the other hand, you may be removed from an oppressive environment and placed in a better one where you can excel. You never know if someone with power/influence is watching you who does not participate in your oppression. Either way, your vibes attract your tribe. The key is always in your response.
Scenario 3: A so-called friend aka frenemy or group of frenemies aka haters and narcissists. Friends don't hate on friends, but support and uplift each other. I share a personal encounter with a frenemy in the post Surviving Rona. People don't hate on those that they perceive are on or below their level. They hate on those that they perceive are above their level. It is all based on perception, not necessarily reality. For example, having a college degree does not make a person better than someone who does not have one, but, the hater perceives that it does. A hater functions on a low frequency of low self-esteem and self-hatred. In turn, their outlook on life is distorted. These insecure individuals define their worth according to their life situation and personal traits. The hater becomes envious of anyone that has a situation or trait that they desire, but do not have. They fail to realize that either they have the power to achieve it or were not meant to have it...different journey renders different situations. The hater is a miserable person who perceives their life as incomplete. This feeling of lack is so pervasive it becomes a form of self-hatred. The hater projects their self-hatred as envy onto whoever is perceived as having the things that are missing in their life. They feel those things will make them happy and solve all of their problems. Therefore, they focus on the journey of others instead of keeping their eyes on the road in front of them. They never discover their purpose, they never find their true power, and they never connect with God, the Creator, the Highest-Self. However, they often become jealous of the ones who actually do make the connection. They may go to church, holy dance, quote scriptures, speak in tongues, and shout hallelujah all day, but it means absolutely nothing. Their praise is empty like a void that leads to a bottomless pit. God is love and cannot dwell in the same place with self-loathing, envy, and jealousy. All those emotions are born of the lowest frequency emotion known to human beings which is fear. They fear the power of the one they are hating on so they are constantly attempting to demean and devalue that person.
A hater is not always, but often a narcissist. Narcissists not only have the profile of a hater, but believe they are more deserving of whatever they envy. They do not feel any gratitude toward those that show them kindness and will attack the very same individuals. They feel entitled and superior to the ones they are hating on. Thus, they feel justified and experience no remorse when they control, manipulate, gaslight, sabotage, lie on, and literally try to destroy their victims. Narcissists are shallow people more concerned with the outer than the inner. They tend to have awesome social skills and love to go to church to acquire high positions. It's all about appearances which usually disguise their true motives. They are extremely power-hungry, but use their powers for destruction and selfish gratifications. Their third eye is usually wide open, yet, tuned into lower horrific dimensions. Narcissists are bottom-feeders who pose as friends in order to devour their prey. One common way narcissists express their hate is by treating the target as if he or she is irrelevant. They are keenly aware of the worth/value, but purposely ignore it. The goal is to pull the person down into a mire of self-doubt and insecurity. It is a cruel mental game that attempts to strip the self-confidence of the victim. Furthermore, these bottom-feeders strive to enlist others to pull individuals down just as they do. If a narcissist hates you, it brings them satisfaction to convince others to hate you also. The more the merrier! Nine times out of ten, the others involved don't even have anything against you personally. They blindly and ignorantly follow the lead of the narcissist who is an expert at manipulation and deception. Within the sick narcissistic mind, bringing you down will somehow lift them up. Your demise is their rise! Don't allow that to happen. Nip it in the bud if you are already under attack. Recognize the signs of the behaviors of frenemies and distance yourself immediately. Remove yourself from that person or group who are toxic to your mental health and spiritual growth. It is better to spend time by yourself than in the midst of razor-tooth snakes and piranhas. Once again, your vibes attract your tribe. Maintaining high vibrations will draw people towards you with the matching energy. They won't hate, but congratulate!
If you are a frenemy to someone, you too must accept accountability and face your demons. Acknowledge your horrendous behavior and make a choice to become a higher quality person. You must shift gears and make a complete spiritual U-turn to go in the opposite direction of where you are headed. If you don't change, you will continue to move further and further away from the Creator. You are moving away from the light that was meant to guide you. Besides, your life approach is illogical. You are measuring your worth based on comparisons to someone else's life. That is like an owner of a clothing store comparing their merchandise to that of a grocery store...both stores have totally different products serving totally different purposes. Both are necessary and crucial to the well-being of the community. Your focus should be managing your clothing store and providing the best products/services possible. Let your neighbor deal with their grocery store...That is not your concern. If everyone was focused on their own purpose, the world would be a much more harmonious place.
If your hateful mindset is related to some type of mental abuse, you have endured, you have the ability to rise above it. If your hateful mindset is related to your inherited DNA, you have the ability to rise above it. There is scientific evidence that certain personality traits can be inherited from parents and their predecessors. Everyone, (with the exception of individuals with cognitive impairment or psychiatric illness), have choices on how they think and act regardless of their afflictions or hardships. Stop blaming your inappropriate behavior on what happened to you as a child. Stop making excuses by claiming your father and grandfather were the same way. We all are given options on a daily basis. You have the freedom to make choices on how you are going to engage your life. As long as the heart is beating, it is never too late to change.
Self-identity should never be based on the world’s perception of you, but emerge from your soul.
The key is not viewing yourself through the eyes of others. Your self-esteem, confidence, inspiration, and motivation will be at great risk. Can you imagine a multi-millionaire living in poverty and struggling to survive because he does not realize the quantity of his assets? Imagine the ludicrousness of him believing the haters saying he is poor and has no money in the bank! The flip-side is he will be overinflated, prideful, and conceited---writing checks for more than what is in the bank. Either way, there is a distorted perception of oneself. The distorted perception, will in turn, distort the path. We are then lost out in a spiritual wilderness searching for a way home. We are now propelled way off course unable to get in touch with our spirits. What do we do next? Usually, turn to traditional religion or acquire all types of addictions, or both! Am I lying? Our self-perception must come from within, never from the outer-world. You will live your entire life without knowing why you were placed on this earth. Please be aware, your worth/value was instilled in you when God created you…not your physical body, but your true essence. The essence of who you are is far older than your physical body and earthly life. It's eternal. Which one are you going to believe?
In short, our value does not come from other people, but God aka the Creator. Our value or worth is priceless and forever relevant as long as we are moving in the direction toward the Creator. Therefore, we should not allow anyone to cause us to doubt or question our importance. It is not based on superficial characteristics, but the inner ones. Our inner characteristics come from the spiritual realm emerging from our connection to divinity. We all are a reflection of divinity going down a different road, having a different journey, and having a different experience. Therefore, our gifts will be unique to facilitate that experience. The problem is the inability for many of us to recognize our gifts due to worldly distractions, like the ones discussed. However, once gifts are recognized, purpose is recognized and that is the true meaning of power.
Have you had any experiences where you were undervalued? If yes, how did it affect you? How did you deal with it?
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