The Nasty Side of Nice

Hello everyone! How are y'all doing in this crazy world of ours? Let me start by clarifying there is not actually a nasty side of nice. However, the human response to nice behavior is often nasty and dysfunctional...not what one would expect. Individuals perceived as nice are often viewed as weak, doormats, push-overs, irrelevant, and even stupid. Acts of niceness or kindness are taken for granted and unappreciated. Narcissists routinely prey on nice people and attempt to manipulate them for their selfish purposes. The explanation is that many times negative energy is drawn to positive energy, but, in a predatory way. Higher vibrations can literally be a magnet for lower vibrations. Light can literally be a magnet for darkness. The attraction is malevolent in order to overtake, devour, and destroy. First of all, let's define what a nice person is. Next, we will discuss some of the reasons why niceness can evoke such nasty responses.

She so nice! He so nice!

The perception of a nice person is directly impacted by one's culture, personality, mental health, religious/spiritual beliefs, and life experiences. In other words, the definition of a nice person is subjective and will vary significantly among different people. At the same time, there are commonalities among human beings that apply to everyone. It has been proven that people share a universal unspoken language. Therefore, there must be universal perceptions and beliefs supporting that language. For the sake of discussion, my personal definition of a nice person is anyone who mostly exhibits behaviors that promote harmony, unity, and peace. A person whose decisions deter chaos and promotes the well-being of those involved. Someone who is more likely to take the high road during conflicts. Numerous people, even atheists, have expressed beliefs that there is a universal right and wrong that transcends religion...some things are just right and some things are just wrong. Based on that viewpoint, a nice person is someone who has aligned themselves with the universal "right" side of the spectrum. They are individuals who others expect to do the right thing. Please note, one can display niceness and not be a good person. Individuals can be deceptive and act in a way that does not reflect their true nature. A person full of darkness can project the illusion of light for nefarious reasons. On the flip-side, a good person may not always act nice or take the high road. Everyone is flawed. No human being is perfect and is susceptible to lower energies impacting the mind, body, and soul.

Nice and don't bother nobody!

I consider myself to be a good person, overall. I am no angel by any stretch of the imagination. Although damaged and flawed like the rest of humanity, I do make an attempt to do the right thing in most situations. I don't need to be threatened or have a punishment looming over me. It is my nature and innate tendency to lean towards the universal good. People have repeatedly referred to me as a nice person throughout my journey. Sometimes, it feels as if, "I AM A NICE PERSON" is written across my forehead! I was even told by a coworker that I could not even hurt a fly if it bit me...smh. Really? The coworker definitely has an unrealistic view of my character. In spite of being the poster child for niceness, people often say and do (or attempt to do) nasty things to me, seemingly unprovoked. It feels as if I am occasionally the target of dysfunctional behavior, but without a probable cause. I use the term "feels" since there is always the possibility that my perception is inaccurate. What I perceive may not always be in alignment with the intentions of the other person(s).

Psalm 109:3-5  "They compassed me about also with words of hatred; and fought against me without a cause. For my love they are my adversaries: but I give myself unto prayer. And they have rewarded me evil for good, and hatred for my love."

Does the scenario from that scripture sound familiar? The life of Yeshua aka Jesus Christ is analogous to Psalm 109. Whether one is a Christian or not, the message in that Bible verse is applicable to a lot of good people. Receiving hatred after expressing love is not a new phenomenon.

When I was younger, it bothered me that people would come for me unprovoked. I would think why did he or she say that? Why did he or she do that? I am nice and don't bother nobody. I even help people in many cases. What is the problem? At the time, I did not realize that me being nice and not bothering nobody was the catalyst that fueled the dysfunctional responses. People who are obnoxious, loud, and cantankerous usually get the most respect. The most devious person on the planet can be super popular with a multitude of friends. All it takes is having great social skills. In other words, knowing how to influence and manipulate people! I didn't understand it back then, but I know what the deal is now. Let's get into it!

Reasons Why People Don't Like and/or Respond Inappropriately to Us Nice Folks

1. We have an inner light that irritates their darkness.  Have you ever been in a dark room for an extended period of time? Suddenly, someone comes in and turns on a bright light that literally hurts your eyes? I imagine on a spiritual level, something similar happens when lower frequency individuals encounter their higher frequency counterparts. We unintentionally cause these individuals pain! Both light and darkness carry spiritual entities or beings. We usually cannot see them with our physical eyes. In some cases, these entities can metaphysically materialize. They are frequently referred to as ghosts and/or demons. Furthermore, the technology within our cameras/video equipment is able to capture light spectra human eyes cannot detect. Hence, people are now seeing all these weird things in their photos and videos. Light disperses darkness. The entities of darkness must flee when light is present. Our light is too bright for certain dark souls rendering angry reactions. Meanwhile, we are thinking, "What did I do???"

2. They perceive our kindness as weakness. Almost everyone, regardless of their culture admires strength. Some people have had unusually hard lives. They have been the victims of enormous cruelty. Although, they may have survived the cruelty, it has left deep mental scars. They may have witnessed kind-hearted people get trampled on...nice people get pushed aside. Those battered souls might have had to fight to acquire the basic things in life, including respect. Sadly, those individuals are propelled into a constant low vibrational state of mind. They are severely damaged and need spiritual healing. Their harsh and abusive reality has distorted their worldview.

3. They are haters who are jealous of us. Jealousy is one heck of a drug! A very poisonous one! It is a frequent and problematic occurrence. I probably could have an entire discussion off of this topic alone...and I just might. Our inner light is seen as greatness and certain individuals are intimidated by it. Therefore, we are viewed as competition. Those who are jealous and envious tend to be highly insecure. This further validates their sense of competition. These types require constant validation from others due to their fragile egos. By default, all haters are deeply intertwined with spiritual darkness. Haters can be found at the workplace, on social media, in your community, in your church, and in your home sweet home 🏠. A hater could be someone we know, including friends & family members or a complete stranger. These types of people function at a very low frequency and tend to have low self-esteem. Sometimes, the low self-esteem is hidden by overinflated, arrogant, or cocky behaviors. They don't feel worthy or capable of ascending. They perceive the high vibrational status as unreachable. They desperately want to be something that they feel is unattainable. This causes a form of self-hatred, but it is projected outward. Therefore, higher vibrational individuals are automatically viewed as enemies.

Not only do jealous people spew hatred toward us, but attempt to recruit others to spew hatred as well. It gives them a false sense of power. They are trying to compensate for their feelings of inadequacy. In order not to feel guilty about mistreating good people, haters attempt to villianize us. They will put us under a microscope in order to search for and magnify our perceived faults. If they cannot find any faults many will fabricate them (lie). The only thing we are guilty of is simply being our authentic illuminated selves. While we are uplifting and helping people, some of them are more focused on us than our good deeds. That is a major reason why we nice folks often feel so attacked. In actuality, we are being attacked and sabotaged by miserable people who wish they were us. Don’t hate. Emulate!!!

4. They see in us what they hate about themselves. Self-hatred is one heck of a drug! Having things in common does not always facilitate unity. If a person has specific traits they hate about themselves, they will also hate those traits observed in others. Someone being nice or good becomes irrelevant. It only makes the self-hater more irritated. It's easy to hate a monster. On the other hand, hating a good person causes some inner disturbances. Unfortunately, the inner disturbances are not enough to squelch the hatred. In addition, the self-hater will also villianize the good person to justify their disdain. When you remind someone of why they hate themselves, then, they will hate you too. You could be the sweetest kindest person in the world and it will not matter.

5. They are attempting to trigger us nice folks to act out of character. This is a common strategy used to villianize a person. When a soul is inside a pit, it wants to pull other souls down there with them. It drives a hater crazy that a person is genuinely nice. It also drives them crazy that other people view her or him as nice. They are trying to remove that halo from over the angel's head. Therefore, they will say or do something to trigger us so we can drop-down to their level. The hater can now point and say, "You see? You see? He ain't a good person. He cursed me out!" Now, the hater can feel justified in degrading someone and recruit others to do the same. We nice folks must be extra careful nowadays since people record/videotape everything and often place it on social media. Not only can they tell others how inappropriately we reacted, they can show them!

6. There is a lack of trust due to being betrayed by people pretending to be nice. When the real thing comes along, he or she is rejected. This scenario occurs in all types of relationships: friendships, romances, businesses, and within the church involving spiritual leaders. Wolves in sheep clothing can wreak havoc in a large variety of settings. Wicked people pretending to be good are one of the most powerful weapons of the destroyer (devil 😈). Pretenders (fake people) give you false information, false hope, and a false sense of security. Hence, directing you down the wrong path. They betray one's trust, cause emotional pain, and mental damage that can last a lifetime. When us genuinely nice people come along we get a very chilly reception. In many cases, we are treated very badly by individuals victimized by pretenders. They are severely damaged people who lack the discernment skills to distinguish between the fake and the real. Instead of approaching people on a case-by-case basis, some betrayed people view others through the lenses of their pain. Meanwhile, us nice folks are thinking, "Wow! What did I do???"

7. The pretender's true motives have been discovered. This is an extension of reason #6. Most nefarious people prefer to commit their foul acts secretly, behind closed doors, within the shadows. They love to masquerade as good people. Once it is discovered what they really are about, they no longer have an incentive to act nice. This group includes narcissists who control and manipulate unsuspecting individuals. As long as they can control the person/situation, he or she will display their best behavior. Once their true intentions are revealed, nasty people will show you their true colors. They will have no problem spewing their venom all over anybody and anything. Keeping their deeds hidden is of utmost priority, particularly if legal and/or judicial repercussions are involved. They usually have no remorse for what they did. However, not getting away with it causes them the most pain.

8. Everyone knows that we are nice, but we are not always socially popular. They know we are a good people, but we ain't in that in-crowd. We are not in the clique. Remember, a devious person can be a socialite if they have the right interpersonal skills. It ain't about whose good it's about whose popular! Nice people get treated like crap simply because they are not in some type of clique. God forbid if a person in the group or the leader straight-out don't like us. Consequently, none of them will like us and won't even know why...The blind leading the blind! Those who dominate the social scene have no problem kicking a good person to the curb if he or she does not meet their "criteria."  If we don't meet the standards to be apart of a specific group, they will not give a hoot about how nice we are. If that is not bad enough, this scenario often plays out in the church! A lot of modern-day churches are just social clubs. Being popular is more important than being Christ-like. Can I get an Amen!!!

Hey There You Beautiful Souls

I wrote this post mainly for people with higher vibrational energies. Those who have a brighter light than the average Joe or Jane. In particular, the ones that feel like they are frequently under attack. Hopefully, you have a better understanding of why so many people can be so mean to someone who is so nice. There is no question that we nice folks must endure a lot of mistreatment. In spite of the love, kindness, support, etc. we extend to others, it is not always reciprocated. 

Honestly, there are times I get FED UP with being the recipient of toxicity. I avow to no longer be so freaking nice! I allow the dark forces to pull me down into their pit. Can anyone relate to what I am talking about? Everyone has a dark side. Everyone has a limit. I am no exception. Occasionally, I respond to negativity with negativity. My mother used to say, “Don’t let them make you drop-down to their level.” Sorry mama, but every now and then I got to drop!😆 Don’t worry, I always return to my source.

I’m talking about genuinely nice people who are naturally in alignment with our higher selves. We do what we do without ulterior motives. We do the right thing simply because it is the right thing. We are compassionate, empathetic, and feel a connection with almost everyone we encounter. Many of us are empaths. Our heart chakra energy is very strong ♥️. Nevertheless, love does not equate with being disrespected and trampled on. A balance must be created between caring for others and demanding respect. We are not perfect. We are not always nice, but our core emits light. 

A Hit Dog Will Holler

The subtitle is just an analogy to how some humans react when they are hit with the truth. Becoming angry with truth while embracing falsehoods are low vibrational behaviors. Unfortunately, there are a lot of low vibrational energies on this planet. Are you one of them? If my discussion has angered or disturbed you in any way, then, you are likely one of them. Why run from the truth? It will eventually catch up with you. Those truths you are trying to avoid are going to impact the course of your life whether you acknowledge them or not. The truth will always manifest situations that you will need to address. I’ve been told truths that I was not trying to hear from family, friends, spiritual leaders, etc. Most of us have. My toes have been stepped on. My feelings have been hurt. I have experienced everything from anger to denial. Yet, I don't try to discredit or kill the messenger. What would that accomplish? It definitely will not change the truth. It is important to keep it real 💯 about ourselves, even if it is derogatory.

Some of you are severely damaged from life experiences. Your journey has been on a rough and bumpy road. Your human interactions have been disastrous. Life has made you hard and mean-spirited. It has been like one big battlefield. You likely suffer from a form of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), whether officially diagnosed or not. Unless you live in a fairy-tale world, most adults suffer varying degrees of PTSD. If the spirit realm had an intensive care unit you would be the patient in critical condition.  It took a lot of pain to get you to this point. At various times, you genuinely loved, wholeheartedly trusted, and truly believed in something or someone only to get betrayed, deceived, hurt, emotionally and mentally devastated. As a result, you don’t trust people. Their smiles and kindness seem fake to you. Their niceness only digs up painful memories from your past that have made you bitter. You may not even like people. You would rather interact with a pet like a dog 🐕‍🦺 or cat 🐱.

Some of you naturally have lower vibrations and darker souls. At least, it seems that way. You are not mentally ill. You have not endured a hard life. Don’t misinterpret me. I'm not implying what religious people call being born evil. However, you cannot deny some folks exhibit behaviors independent of their life experiences, upbringing, or any outside influences. They act the way they do because of their inner workings, not the environment. This is applicable to both positivity and negativity. Therefore, it appears as if some of us were born with a specific predisposition. We are who we are. For some of you, that ain’t so pretty. The true light that comes from our Creator aka God either irritates you, repels you, or does not matter to you. You have found a comfort zone in a spiritually dark abyss. You have become allies with those entities that reside in the abyss with you. If what I am saying applies to you don't be offended...ACCEPT IT...That is the first step to making a change. I truly believe if you are drawn to reading my blog there is a good seed inside of you. Let it grow. Let it blossom 🌺 

The Ball is in Your Court

Everyone has free will. We all have a choice. We all have the freedom to choose what we align our energy with. If any of the reasons I have discussed describe how you treat people, you are on the wrong side of the fence! You are on a path that may feel comfortable, but leads to a dead end 💀. You are also manifesting bad karma from mistreating good people. You need to partake in activities that raise your frequency, such as meditation, prayer, burning sage, studying spirituality, getting closer to nature, and a healthy lifestyle just to name a few. If your dysfunctional behavior is from mental trauma you need to heal. You need to replenish and rejuvenate your battered mind, body, and soul. During this time, don’t worry about relationships. Focus on healing yourself and the rest will fall into place. In addition to doing things that raise your frequency, seek therapy, both traditional and alternative, such as hypnosis. Remove toxic people out of your life. Fake people will occasionally show you glimpses of their true colors. I call those glimpses red flags 🚩…Don’t ignore them. As long as you are breathing in that good prana it is never too late to change your path. No one can force you to do it. You must want to do it.

Meanwhile, I will continue to be nice and not bother nobody 😄

 

 

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