The Good Book gives humanity a clear directive within the scripture Jeremiah 17:5 "Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the Lord." My interpretation of this scripture is that we should not place our mental and spiritual well-being at the mercy of the words/behaviors of people...No matter how close we are to them...No matter how much we love them...No matter how much we trust them. Why not you may ask? People are naturally flawed. We are fallible and prone to make mistakes. We are often changeable, fickle, and highly unstable. Many are selfish and place more value on materialism than humanism. Many are deceptive and will hide their true feelings and motives. We are plagued with chemical addictions, personality and psychological disorders. We are often drawn to lower vibrational energies. We just plain foul! Christianity refers to this phenomenon as having a sinful nature. Humans are also described as carnal placing more priority on the physical than the spiritual. According to that belief system, we are naturally prone to say and do devious things. Therefore, a conscious effort must be made to raise the vibrations and generate positivity.
Jeremiah 17:9 "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: Who can know it?"
Isaiah 64:6 "For we all have become like one who is unclean, and all deeds of righteousness are like filthy rags; We all wither and decay like a leaf, and our wickedness like the wind, takes us away."
Of course, we know that people are not the same. Some are naturally more high vibrational than others and vice versa. The Universal Law of Polarity states everything has a dual existence. We are guided by opposing forces-the positive and negative ends of the pole. We all have both positive and negative traits. At the same time, everyone has choices. Therefore, our souls choose which end of the pole dominates our energies. All of that dynamic spills over into our human interactions.
Miscommunications and Misunderstandings
Communication is the foundation of any interaction to take place. It makes the other parties aware of our feelings, expectations, standards/values, likes/dislikes, and so on. The other parties must be aware of those those things in order to provide what is needed to maintain the relationship. Narcissists use communication as a weapon to degrade, manipulate, and control.
Misunderstandings happen when the receiver misinterprets incoming information. He or she perceives the message differently than the way it was intended by the sender. This often happens with text messaging and emailing. Printed communications do not convey facial expressions, tone of voice, or any nonverbal cues. Even face-to-face communication can be misinterpreted based on cultural and/or religious background, personality traits, knowledge level, mental status, etc. Unfortunately, personal and business interactions can be easily and unnecessarily hampered. I once had a neighbor who we had a very amicable and friendly relationship. We did not hang out with each other or call each other everyday, but helped and supported the other when necessary. After about 3 or 4 years, the neighbor and her spouse suddenly and abruptly stopped speaking or talking to me. I was perplexed and felt betrayed, but continued on with my life. After all, I did not need these people to pay any of my bills, eat, sleep, breathe, or provide any essential services.
Several years later, that same neighbor acquired a position in our community's home association. She was required to contact all the homeowners about a specific issue. She approached me while I was standing outside and we had a brief and very formal conversation. It was as if we were two strangers just discussing a business issue. As she was about to walk away, she suddenly turned to face me with an anguished look. She proceeded to tell me that one day when I was driving out of the parking lot she was standing nearby on the sidewalk waving her hands and shouting hello! However, I ignored her and kept on driving. According to her, I "sped" out of the parking lot without looking her way. Upon hearing that, I became extremely disgusted and annoyed with her! I had and still don't have any memory of that event! I told her that I did not see her and had absolutely no idea of what she was talking about. I assured her I would never ignore her or anyone else greeting me. It’s not in my nature to display that level of coldness and indifference. She seemed relieved and accepted my explanation.
Change in the Circumstances
Most of our relationships only exist if a certain criteria or set of circumstances are in place. If one or more circumstances change, the relationship changes also. This is a broad area yielding various scenarios. Let's discuss a few:
My definition of betrayal is to forfeit the trust someone has placed in you. You are disregarding my faith in you and proceed to knowingly do the opposite of my expectations. On the other hand, the betrayed person is trusting another individual to meet their expectations. When you eat at a restaurant, by default, you have created business relationships with the owner, the cook, the waiters, and even the cashier. You are trusting people that you do not know and often do not see to provide quality delicious food in a clean and sanitary manner. You are trusting complete strangers not to poison you or do something crazy to your food! We are always in a vulnerable position where we can be betrayed. Even the Christian messiah aka Jesus Christ was betrayed by one of his disciples leading to the most important event of that faith.
"Their betrayal is not your fault, but shows who they are. Love people, but don't become attached to them. Attachment leads to suffering!" Sri Govindu
We often believe that the other party will do or not do certain things due to the quality of the relationship. For instance, you might believe you and your partner are so happy and deeply in love that he or she would NEVER be unfaithful. You are delusional. You are not taking the following into account:
- The tendency for people to change and flip-flop in different settings.
The loyalty of some is based on specific circumstances being present. A different setting or exposure to different people automatically changes the circumstances. Some common examples are military personnel who cheat on their partners when stationed overseas, but are loving and faithful back at home. The love interest who has a fling when out partying with their homies, yet behaves appropriately everywhere else. What about the coworker who is friendly at the workplace, but doesn't even acknowledge you when encountering them out in the community? How many of us have heard about, observed, and /or experienced a family disputing and falling apart after a beloved one transitions? Relationships that were once solid, now, going up in smoke!
- The possibility of hidden traits, feelings, and/or motives being revealed.
Some people are very skilled at hiding their true intentions, particularly narcissists. Hypocrisy seems to have acquired a level of acceptance that is alarming. People love the fake and hate the real. Lies make them happy and the truth makes them angry. Money is often the culprit that facilitates individuals to show their true colors. Ultimately, it also brings about the collapse of numerous relationships.
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About a decade ago, I was home in my den working on the computer. A family member was just a few feet away in another room talking on the phone. Next to me was an accent table that once belonged to my father before he married my mother. I call it the Bachelor table. I believe it was constructed in the 1940's. It was left to my mother when he transitioned and passed on to me when she transitioned.
After all these years, the only thing that broke on it was one leg. A former friend had it repaired as a gift to me. On this table I had an assortment of candles in beautiful glass holders, a stack of books, and a lamp. All of the sudden, without warning, the "repaired" leg of the table broke and the table crashed to the floor with an incredibly loud boom!!! The boom of the table hitting the floor was magnified by the boom of the books hitting the floor and the shattering glass from the candle holders. It all made a horrible blood-curdling sound. I am sure everyone in that building must have heard it. It sounded as if injury or loss of life had taken place. Thanking my Creator I was not hurt, but badly shaken. As I sat there trying to gather my senses, there was a complete, yet weird silence...The reason why I perceived the silence as weird was from the lack of response from the family member. One would expect any person nearby to run towards the room hollering, "Are you okay? Are you alright?" How could anyone hearing that noise not check on a person? Not just any person, but a loved one.
I continued to sit there staring at the toppled over table, scattered books, broken lamp, smashed candles, and broken glass strewn everywhere. I was in shock! The silence bothered me more than the actual table collapsing. I felt confused on the lack of inquiry from the family member. He/she was only a few feet away. Hence, I purposely sat there in silence waiting to see what would happen. After approximately 10 minutes, I hear the family member walking towards the room and his/her voice saying the words that shook me to my core, "Let me see if she is dead yet." Ouch!! A second later, he/she opens the door still holding the telephone looking at me face-to-face, eye-to-eye...I never changed my expression and acted as if I did not hear what was said. Nevertheless, those words shocked and hurt me deeply. This family member was very close and had only expressed love and support for me. It wasn’t so much the words that hurt me. I am an emotionally strong person. I don’t bruise easily from words. It was who the words were spoken by that took me out! The thought of someone I had such deep ties with waiting for me to die was more than what I could bare. The pain was so great it caused me to question my religion and world view. It forced me out of that small box I had been living in most of my life. I began to deeply research spirituality leading me to my current views. I woke-up!
I held the pain inside of me for 2 years before I confronted the family member. He/she vehemently denied and continues to deny saying those devastating words. I was ensured he/she would NEVER say anything like that. I was told that I must have heard disembodied voices! Really? Who knows, maybe he/she is right and I was hearing voices. All I know is that I never heard disembodied voices before that day nor have I heard disembodied voices after that day. It’s possible that the family member could be in denial. We all have intentions that emerge from the subconscious (unaware) mind. It is believed that the subconscious mind has more impact on our behavior than the conscious (aware) mind. When I questioned why he/she took so long to check on me it was explained he/she was scared! According to him/her, it took 10 minutes to gather enough courage to walk back there not knowing the condition I would be in...Wow! What a terrible response to an emergent situation. What if I needed immediate help? What if my survival had been dependent on a swift response? Nevertheless, I have forgiven the family member and accepted their explanation.
We must learn to stop putting people on pedestals simply because we love, like, admire, and/or respect them. Thus, we won't become so angry, so depressed, so shocked, so disillusioned, so emotionally damaged when humans act like humans! I bet you the homicide and suicide rates would drop significantly if everyone followed that advice. The life insurance policy has since been obliterated. To the former friend, if you are reading this I want to thank you for the sloppy repair of my father’s Bachelor table. It made a major contribution to my spiritual growth and enlightenment 🙏.
The experience I just described confirms that we cannot always love people based on our expectations. We must love them right where they are, not where we expect them to be. Sometimes, we cannot love people for who they are, but in spite of who they are. I no longer believe that unconditional love is possible on this 3-D physical realm, but we must strive for it. In the same manner, perfectionism is impossible among humans. In other words, no human is capable of being perfect on this realm. Yet, we must also strive for it. When we strive for something higher our energy vibrates higher. Can you guess what the result is? Ascension, of course! We will be propelled into a world that matches our vibrations and receive what we are striving for.
Jealousy
There are times when our interactions are hampered by jealousy/envy. Envy is similar to jealousy minus the intimidation and hatred. Jealousy is deadlier as reflected in the Biblical story of Cain and Abel. There are news stories of people murdering people over jealousy. My mother used to call jealousy the green-eyed monster. One person progresses and the other does not. One person reaches their goals and the other does not. Need I say more? I was cool with you when we both worked at McDonald's. However, when I got hired with a corporation making 3 times as much money, there is now a problem. The change in the circumstances creates a hater who was once an ally. One person finishes only high school and the other attends college. One has a small modest home, the other purchases a large luxurious home with all the bells & whistles. Both want to get married, but one does and the other doesn't. Both want to have children, but one does and the other doesn't. One becomes a successful entrepreneur and the other struggles to keep their business afloat. Get the point?
Some relationships remain intact only if the circumstances remain the same. As soon as there is a change that elevates only one, love becomes hate. Support becomes sabotage. Strong unions become weak. Family ties are broken. Friendships are shattered. Marriages are battered. Yes, lovers and spouses can become jealous/envious of each other. Someone choosing you as a mate doesn’t necessarily mean they have your best interests at heart. Often times, people enter relationships for selfish reasons.Please note, I am not implying everyone who watches another progress automatically becomes jealous/envious. Everyone’s brain is not wired that way. Some people, such as myself, are genuinely happy for those that make advancements. My reaction is either show me how you did it, I’m going to do the research to figure it out myself, or I don’t really want it. Everything ain’t meant for everybody. If something is meant for me I will have the power to manifest it.
"It's okay to lose people. But never lose yourself." Author unknown
On the flip-side, the one that progresses may start to look down on the stagnant one. After reaching a certain status, one might feel superior to a friend, partner, or family member. That is not a wise thing to do. Everyone is at a different point on their own journey. When you think you are better than people due to your status, it makes you arrogant and prideful. You are incapable of feeling gratitude, but only entitlement. Furthermore, you cannot feel superior to someone and love them at the same time. Hence, hatred will be the replacement. Entitlement and hatred are obviously from the negative end of the spectrum. They will eventually pull you into an abyss of spiritual darkness.
Jealousy is a toxic state of mind. You are literally poisoning yourself and your own destiny. You are making another person's journey more important than your own. The focus you place on them only manifests more of what you envy, but, in their lives, not yours. This is why I love my haters. The more they focus on me the more successful I become! Keep up the good work!👍
Practically every belief system warns us of putting trusts in other people. We should only trust people with the understanding that we can be let down. I personally don't expect people to act decent. Although, it still hurts when people do me dirty, it does not cause me to lose my mind. It does not cause me to do something crazy. It does not stop me from moving forward with my life. Whenever my fellow humans do act appropriately, it feels like a gift or a special blessing. Hence, I feel joy expressing much gratitude to the Creator. Our higher selves already know that human beings, as a group, are quirky, selfish, and toxic. The situation is worsened by the varying degrees of cognitive and mental illnesses. All those messy traits come together in our various relationships. No wonder so much drama ensues. Why on earth would you allow your emotional/mental health to internalize the chaos? Why do you allow your heart and soul to get pummeled by all the drama? In the name of love? The individuals you love are only human and flawed as we all are.
First of all, you must love yourself and acknowledge your own shortcomings. You will then be able to love people while recognizing their shortcomings. The goal is to identify imperfections of character without being judgmental. Most of us need to enter our relationships, personal or business, with a more realistic view of human nature. My heart was broken in two by what I believed I heard from a loved one. We must be aware that the other party has character flaws whether we are aware of them or not. We must stop being so delusional and recognize there is the potential for betrayal within ANY human interaction. I don’t care if it’s your spiritual leader. Stop placing blind trust in them. They are human and sometimes act worse than those they are leading. I don’t care if it’s your parents, grandparents, children, siblings, auntie/uncle, cousin, best friend, business partner, or any other significant other. Don’t lose your mind over what ANYONE says or does regardless of your closeness, their role in your life, how long you have known them, etc. We need to learn how to love others without making them responsible for our emotional/mental well-being. Strength must be garnered from within, not from others. We must learn to put our faith in the best versions of ourselves which is one with our Creator.
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