Believe me, I am not pointing any fingers or passing judgment on anyone. Please note, I am using terms such as, "we, ourselves, and us." In analyzing my own life, I have viewed certain situations in retrospect and realized I have often sabotaged my own happiness. At various points during my journey, I have been given everything I needed to thrive and be happy, but I was either too ignorant or too mentally damaged to recognize it. It makes me cringe to think how much further I would be in life if I had accepted my gifts and allowed nature to take its course. However, I allowed distractions from lower energy sources to impact my judgment and decisions. If you don't already know, those type of distractions do not come from our Creator, but from the destroyer or what religious people call the devil 😈🔥.
If you are in a similar situation as me of previously self-sabotaging your own progress there is good news...The spirit realm does not operate in time, but in seasons...Can I get an Amen! In other words, if you have messed up things in the past, another season will roll back around providing an opportunity to rectify and regain what was lost. However, in order for that to occur, we must recognize our mistakes, understand why they happened, and make the necessary corrections. If we don't, history will repeat itself and our divine purposes will not be fulfilled 😢. We will be incapable of learning the lessons we came here for. If that happens we cannot spiritually ascend to the next level. For you religious church folks that means you won't be going to heaven. Only a few walk that path as the Holy Bible clearly states. I am not saying you will go to "hell"🔥or be reincarnated, but, you will not ascend to a higher world if you cannot get it right in this one.
Matthew 7:13-14 "Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it."
I consider myself as one of the few. Who would like to join me?
Common Reasons for Self-Sabotage
Every identifiable reason for self-sabotage can be traced to, you guessed it, the destroyer. We allow the lowest vibrations in the universe to impact our thoughts, words, and actions. We allow the influences of the most foul, malevolent energy in the universe to mold and shape our perspectives. Unfortunately, it is true. Due to the fact that humans have free will, too many of us allow the destroyer to guide us as we navigate through life. However, the destination is always death and destruction, physically, mentally, and spiritually.
Low Self-Esteem
The publication Oxford Languages defines self-esteem as, “Confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect.” Low self-esteem is a low vibrational state of mind caused by our upbringing, childhood trauma, societal norms, and social illnesses, particularly the ones ending with "ism." A societal norm is not necessarily based on truth, but on the beliefs of those that regulate the society...Or, based on what they want us to believe. One internalizes a negative way they were treated to the point of not recognizing their own true value and worth. This causes her or him to vibrate at a lower frequency than what their spiritual blueprint dictates. Feeling less than and underrating oneself facilitates decisions that are not in one's best interest. It is a form of self-hatred that pushes away the very things that benefit us. It makes us reject what is good for us.
A less than ideal childhood can lower one's self-esteem leaving one feeling devalued and/or traumatized. It is crucial to realize that whoever raised or traumatized you was human. Human beings are inherently flawed. They were more than likely damaged and misguided individuals. The same applies to those who are socially ill spewing any of the "isms." Their actions do not reflect the essence of our Creator, therefore, should not be influencing how we view ourselves or others. Societal norms and social illnesses may never change, but how we respond to them can. If it takes professional therapy to heal your mind/thought processes, then please, do so. There is nothing shameful about seeking professional help and it is highly recommended. Furthermore, it might be necessary to take medications. The purpose of psych medications is to balance and correct the chemical imbalances in the brain. There is absolutely nothing shameful about that either. There are also natural remedies and nutritional supplements one can investigate to balance the brain. We must do any and everything to raise our vibrations, which in turn, raises self-esteem. Individuals with high self-esteem are exponentially more likely to reach their goals and have an overall more productive journey.
Let's take a quick look at the connections/differences between self awareness, self-love, selfishness, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-respect, and self-worth.
Doing research on this topic was a grueling process! There is an exhausting amount of information available. It comes from numerous people and I found it ambiguous and confusing. However, I sifted through a lot of it and have come to my own conclusions. If you don't agree with me, then do your own research and tell us your findings in the comments. The following is my perspective on the topic:
1. Self-Awareness is consciousness directed inward or awareness of one's own existence. It can be high or low vibrational. One cannot have self-love without first being aware of themselves.
2. Self-Love is having a genuine concern and vested interest in one's own well-being. Self-love is unconditional because it exists regardless of one's flaws and imperfections. If the self-love is contingent on certain conditions it becomes selfishness. Selfishness is low vibrational. The selfish love is usually based on temporary conditions of the physical world. Pure love is the fastest vibrating highest frequency energy that we know of in the universe. It is a state of consciousness from which our universe and all of creation have emerged. It is a state of mind that serves as the foundation for all other high vibrational thought processes. Therefore, one cannot have self-confidence, high self-esteem, self-respect, or a sense of self-worth if there is no self-love.
3. Self-Confidence is being aware of one's own competence for specific abilities and skills. The confident person is aware of their positive traits and uses them to excel in social settings. For example, a socially confident person believes they are proficient with their social skills. They feel accepted and comfortable in social settings due to their specific abilities and personal traits.
3. Self-Esteem is what one believes about themselves in terms of the quality of person they are. How they view themselves determines if they feel deserving of happiness or not. Many people with low self-esteem often have internalized (identify with) negative labels directed toward them. Those labels shape how they perceive themselves as people. Hence, leaving them feeling undeserving of the best things in life. The result is self-sabotage. For example, the universe sends the low esteemed person their perfect mate. However, the low self-esteemed feel as if she or he is not good enough for the person. Sadly, they feel undeserving of that relationship when it is actually the ideal one.
4. Self-Respect, in my opinion, is a part of high self-esteem. When one has high self-esteem, it generates feelings of pride, dignity, and confidence. Self-respect is the demonstration of those feelings through our actions. It is the manner in which we present ourselves. High self-esteem is the feeling. Self-respect is the behavior or how the feeling is expressed.
5. Self-Worth determines how much value a person assigns to themselves. It reflects how important or significant she or he feels within the scheme of life. For instance, a homeless person may have less self-worth than a successful physician. The homeless person probably feels less relevant than the physician. Hence, self-worth is how a person views their own role in supporting the world they live in. In reality, the homeless person is just as relevant as the physician, but in a different way. Every human being has been assigned a role that promotes humanity whether they are aware of it or not.
As you can see, all those concepts are connected, yet have subtle differences. However, if any of them are on low-fuel, self-sabotage is a potential self-defeating behavior that may ensue.
Guilt
Some of us don't believe we are worthy of happiness due to feelings of guilt. Although someone may have changed their ways, she or he can feel remorse over wicked deeds they committed. Consequently, they don't feel deserving of a higher quality of life. The person feels as if they need to be punished so they self-inflict it on themselves. If this describes your plight, please hear this: STOP TRYING TO PUNISH YOURSELF. As soon as you committed the deed, your karma was set in motion (Universal Law of Cause and Effect). Bluntly stated, whatever you suppose to get you are going to get it! If you sowed it, you are going to reap it! The process does not need any additional help from you. The universe knows how you should be handled. You don't have to self-inflict any punishments. That may sound scary if you have generated a lot of negative karma. There is a ray of hope in the situation by way of the Universal Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy-bad energy is transformed to good energy! Can I get an Amen! When we genuinely feel sorry for bad behavior, we are operating from our higher-selves. The higher energy literally transforms negative karma into the positive version. High frequencies can overtake lower frequencies and transform them. My personal term for remorse is retrospective compassion-expressing compassion on the back-end of an event. Compassion is a very high vibrational expression and raises our frequencies creating good karma. Therefore, self-sabotage is not necessary. Go easy on yourself. The very fact that you feel guilt or remorse indicates you are more influenced by our Creator.
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Ignorance
In many instances, we simply don't have the wisdom and/or experience to know a good thing when we see it. Ignorance is a broad term, but usually refers to a person not being exposed or having access to knowledge. There are times we just haven't received the required information to make wise decisions. As a result, we self-sabotage from not knowing any better. I will briefly review some of the reasons why we can be so ignorant and self-destructive.
- Not being exposed to good examples during our childhood and the formative years. There were either no examples of an ideal person/situation or bad ones. When we become adults under those circumstances, we lack the knowledge to make wise choices. We choose the wrong people, go to the wrong places, and get involved in the wrong situations. After experiencing a substantial amount of pain and agony from our poor decisions, we finally acquire the knowledge that was lacking. However, it is usually many years later leaving us older, weary, and battle-scarred.
- Receiving false information during our childhood and formative years from our parents (or whoever raised us). Misguided people misguide people. The individuals who are responsible for our upbringing may tell us the wrong things. It is likely due to them being told the wrong things during their upbringing and even as adults. They mean no harm, but are simply misguided. I love my mother immensely, but she told me some stuff that I later found out was bull crap! She didn't mean any harm, but was misguided herself. In some cases, the incorrect information gets passed on from generation to generation. Hence, a legacy of ignorance is created. These types of families are often stagnant and nonproductive with a lot of inner turmoil from the self-sabotaging that ensues. The destroyer loves to keep humanity ignorant. Hosea 4:6 "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge."
- Receiving false information through societal norms and social illnesses. As previously stated, societal norms are not necessarily based on truth. A societal norm is a standard or behavior that is accepted, expected, and promoted by a large social group (society). If we accept the wrong information it will impact our choices and decisions negatively. Also, we will reinforce those norms to those we have influence over, such as our children, students, and other individuals who look up to us. Tragically, social illnesses, such as the "isms" are communicated throughout the population and passed on from generation to generation. These toxic messages are often incorporated into the societal norms and belief systems. Consequently, our perspectives about a person or thing is grossly distorted. We are rendered blind to the true beauty and value of a person or thing. We cannot see what is right in front of us. After being gifted with the people, things, and situations required for happiness, we don't realize it. We ignorantly reject what is beneficial and accept what is harmful. There is the erroneous belief that the grass is always greener in another yard. On the flip-side, we reject our gifts due to believing the grass in our yard is the only green grass. Good people and good things are devalued/rejected due to prideful arrogance fueled by ignorance. The destroyer bombards us with all types of false information to keep us ignorant, blind, and in spiritual darkness.
- Immaturity and Lack of Experience. The very state of being chronologically young can make us ignorant due to sheer lack of experience. We have not been in the world long enough to accumulate the knowledge required to make proper choices. The youth often lack sound judgment and decision-making skills by virtue of being young and inexperienced. Hence, the inability to recognize a good thing and accept one's blessings. The resolution is either listen to the wisdom of older people who have already been through the same things or just go through it and learn from painful experience...learning the hard way. I have noted that many individuals within the younger population don't want to listen to older people. They believe they have all the information they need. Therefore, they will surely learn certain things the hard way and that is just how it is. Hopefully, the young people will have a support system to buffer them when she or he crashes. In addition, the older generations can get frustrated to stand back and watch the younger ones we love make all these ignorant mistakes. When we are responsible for children, we can control their actions and environments. However, once they become young adults, they are responsible for themselves. We can share our wisdom with them, but cannot force them to do or not to do anything. Older individuals must accept that reality, let go the stress, and be available to provide support when necessary.
In brief, we discussed how much of the pain and misery people experience is from self-sabotage. Self-sabotage is destroying one's own happiness and quality of life. It is the failure to recognize what is good or bad for us. Self-sabotage can manifests from our conscious or subconscious mind. The various reasons are low self-esteem and related mindsets, lack of observing good examples, receiving false information from our loved ones and the society, guilt over not so nice behavior, and just being young and immature. It was pointed out that the destroyer or what religious people call the devil, is responsible for manifesting the conditions that foster self-sabotage. On the other hand, our Creator, what most call God or the Universe, is responsible for manifesting conditions that prevent and eliminate self-sabotage. Doing things that raise our vibrations, including meditation, prayer, music therapy, healthy lifestyle, receiving mental counseling/life coaching, etc., can lessen the chance of self-sabotaging behaviors to occur.
💖You Are Loved💖
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